I’m thinking of a word that starts with “G” and ends with “oodbye.”

One of my friends requested me to write a post on Goodbyes. This is my attempt at trying to help her through whatever she is going through. I should have asked what kind of goodbye… But alas, I was not smart enough to ask, so here is what I’ve got.

I understand goodbyes are hard, but you have to remember that saying goodbye is just another part of life. It’s a hard part, but we all have to do it. There will always be hello’s in the future, and that’s where you should keep your focus on. Saying goodbye may hurt, but what hurts more is to see someone leave without hearing that last goodbye. We may not want to hear that word, but when someone leaves, you want to be able to have the chance to say it.

Besides, let’s face it. No matter who we say goodbye to, it isn’t the end. If it’s a friend leaving for a trip, they will return. If it’s a break up, you will eventually run into each other later and life, and you’ll both realize that goodbye was the best thing to happen to both of you. If it’s someone who then passes on, I would like to believe that eventually, you’ll meet up with that person. No matter what you do, goodbye isn’t permanent.

Actually, if I can be honest (which I can since this is my blog and all…), there’s something magical about saying goodbye. It’s as if in that one moment, you suddenly appreciate every single thing about the person you’re saying goodbye to all at once.

Never thought of it that way have you? That’s because when we think of telling someone goodbye, it’s usually to someone we love or care about, and we don’t want to say goodbye. That doesn’t mean that we’ve stopped loving or caring for them. Sometimes, goodbye is a painful way to say I love you, and there’s no other way around it.

Sometimes the easiest thing to say is goodbye, and sometimes it’s the only way.

The one thing I hate the most though is indeed saying goodbye. It’s never been easy for me. I mean, how do you approach the concept of goodbye? Goodbyes are all different. Some are for a day, some are for months, and others are forever ( in this lifetime). The concept of forever is hard to accept as well. I mean, it’s like “Hey! I’m never going to see you again, goodbye.” Doesn’t that feel just… Incomplete? That’s what most goodbyes are. They’re incomplete, and you honestly don’t know how long the goodbye will last… However, it’s all a part of life. More than likely, it’s the part we hate most in life, but what can you do?

Saying goodbye is usually the hardest thing to do. Sometimes, you still love that person, but they hurt you too bad. Sometimes, you have to hurt them with those words. Sometimes you know you’ll regret it. Saying goodbye can be confusing, sad, happy, freeing, and always emotional. Whether you’re saying goodbye to a friend, or a boyfriend/girlfriend, it’s always hard. It’s scary because it changed you. It’s terrifying because that person may never be in you'r life again even though you ‘need’ them. Sometimes you love someone and you know they love you back, but you can’t just do it anymore, and the though of them hating you just about kills you. Then you have to say goodbye to them, and they don’t understand because they’re angry, but what they don’t realize is your heart is breaking too. It’s too painful to live with regret, and it’s painful to miss someone you say goodbye too because they’re not there. Or, they are, but it’s not the same. Walking out the door and not turning back is one of the most difficult things to do in life. It’s hard not to want to run back and tell them you love them and you’re sorry. It’s hard not to just keep holding on because you’re afraid and don’t want to hurt them. But listen, tons of people are going to walk in and out of your life, and you’re going to say goodbye many, many times. Even if it’s just for a short time, it still hurts.

But sometimes, it’s for the best. No. It’s always for the best. It won’t seem like it in that moment, but it is. I know it’s scary to turn your back and just walk away. I know it’s terrifying to have to live your life without someone who has been there for so long. I know it’s heartbreaking to have the person you love to be with hurt, but that’s what you have to learn. You have to learn that everybody is standing alone at one point in their life. Everyone has said goodbye too. It’s hard, scary, and hurtful, but in a matter of time you’ll look back and realize it was for the best. You’ll think of all those good memories instead of the moments when you were crying. It’s confusing when you know it’s time to say goodbye. It’s hard when you know you need to let go, but then you learn that you need to be strong. Things will fall into place, they always do. Always.

No matter where you go in life, you will eventually have to say goodbye to someone or something. Don’t let it eat away at your thoughts or soul. Everyone happens for a reason, especially when it comes to goodbyes. If it has to do with a person, it’s because sometimes, two people need to be apart in order to realize that they need to be together.

Woah, I wrote a lot more than I thought I would. I think I have confused you guys enough with my thoughts on goodbyes. Hopefully, this has helped you come to terms with things, or even why you have to say goodbye in general. Remember that you’re awesome, and goodbyes don’t last forever. You’ll meet up again someday, and you’ll realize exactly why you said goodbye in the first place.

Cheers,

<3 Chels