Really, I should not be the person to talk about love. My love life? Non-existent... Mostly because I make it that way... However, It’s time for us to have a chat.
First thing to discuss? We ALL have baggage. It’s not something we really talk about, but it’s something we need to comprehend and fast.
Have you ever thought that the reason a boy is so afraid to be in a relationship is because someone caused him to lose faith in one?
Whether it be, a fiancée’ who cheated on him with his best friend..
Or an Ex-Wife who only showed him that marriage was all about fighting.
Or even, an ex who used him for money/a ride/a new wardrobe/etc...
All these things are valid reasons as to why a guy is afraid to be in a relationship with you. It’s his baggage he carries, but never shows.
Why?
Because we have a stereotype on love.
Think about it... In movies and music, the guy is always portrayed as bad, and the girl either dumps him, or is ‘rescued’ by someone else.
Pffffffffffffft. Welcome to real life friends, that is not how love is played.
Girls are players too. Half of the time, I’m embarrassed to be a girl because of the things other girls do.. (Like cheating, I mean, who the heck does that?!)
Because of this though, we also have to deal with being compared to the ex. It may take some time to prove that you’re not going to hurt him like she did, but you still have to prove it. Just as much as you want a guy to prove that he deserves to be with you, you have to do the same.
Second.. Love takes time.
There is no expiration date. I would like to think that there is an age difference.. (Seriously, more than 15 years apart, you have a problem...) But sometimes, we find the right people at the wrong time, and it takes a while to realize it. We could be in different relationships, or could just be afraid to be in love. Either way, eventually, love will come around.
Everyone has a partner, and a purpose.
Love is all about patience.
Just my thoughts on the matter, carry on.
<3 Chels
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1 comments:
How true! There are definitely times when we need to stand back and see how something might be for someone else. I like your take on it that it does take time to build up that trust in a relationship. So true. I wish more people understood that as clearly as you seem to :)
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