Commitments……

What an interesting topic to come to after a long hiatus from my blog eh? To be honest, I always think about what to share on my blog before I post it. Not because I’m afraid to post anything, my life is an open book to those who seek it, but because I always want to post something that I’m experiencing, but can also help someone else. A complete stranger, a family friend, whoever you are, know that I write my blog with you in mind.

But commitments? What a strange topic for a 19 year old, yes? No. It’s anything but.

I had 2 fine men come to my house today to teach a lesson. It was about commitments. When I first heard that word, I couldn’t help but think, “Are you kidding? I have nothing to commit to, I have other things to think about” but as the lesson continued, I began to really think about what commitments I have at the moment.

Now, hold up. When I say the word Commitment, the first thing you probably think of is….

Marriage/Relationships, right?

Well, if you know me, then you know that I am indeed different. I’m a leader, not a follower. I do things in my own way. I don’t follow the status quo.

When I really started to listen and think about the commitments that I’ve made/ am making, I immediately thought of….

School. Yep. How absurd of me, a 19 year old woman, to think about achieving a higher education instead of getting married/ starting a family. Not true… Just because I’m not thinking about it, doesn’t mean I don’t want it.

However, what does this have to do with anything?

Think to yourself about something you have committed too. Work, school, a relationship, what have you. You probably weren’t sure of if you wanted it in the first place, right? You doubted yourself, or you didn’t want to put in the effort, correct?

But then you finally decided to just go for it. You threw caution into the wind and went after what you wanted. Now look at yourself. You’re in a nice relationship with a good guy/girl? Excellent. You’re finally manager at your job? Bravo. You finally found the occupation you want to be thanks to school? Do you see where I’m going?

Sometimes we have to take a leap of faith in order to grasp what we want. We have to commit ourselves before we know if it’s going to turn out. This is life. Throughout the next couple of years, we all have to make decisions. You want to get married? The first step is putting yourself out there. Sure, you’ll get turned down, but you have to make a lot of wrongs before you can get to the right. You want that promotion at work? Start taking the initiative and show your boss what you’re made of. Stay late to work on a project, be to work on time, force yourself to go to sleep at a decent time instead of staying up until 3 am reading blog posts from friends (you know who you are..). Will it take a while to notice? Sure, but eventually, your hard work will pay off. You want to figure out what to do with your life? Go to school. Get that education. The worst thing you can do is flunk out, and that can only be achieved if you don’t do anything.

Don’t have any commitments? Make some right now. I’m not even kidding. Grab a piece of paper, and write down a few things that you Want to do.

I made a few commitments today that I plan on succeeding in, and I have already completed a few that I didn’t realize I had made. I can tell you right now though, that I couldn’t have achieved what I already have by saying “Next week I’ll….” and “Maybe tomorrow..”

I’m going to school in 4 weeks. I am completely scared out of my mind, but I know that I can do it, because I already made the commitment to go. I’m all signed up and ready to go. Yes, marriage isn’t a priority to me right now, but I have already committed myself to doing so by going on dates, and working on myself to be a good companion. You don’t really realize the commitments you’ve made, until you start to realize what you want, and how you want to get there.

The only advice I can offer you is that, the time to commit is now.

<3 Chels